Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Useless wax on the floor?

Failing is a step closer to success

     Whatever you do, there's no way that you could achieve something without working hard for it. While in the process of reaching your goals, you will surely encounter a series of unfortunate events which simply means that your attempts would not always be successful; there are times when you would be making mistakes and these shouldn't hinder you from trying again. I have been in this kind of situation for a couple of times already. I tend to give up on things in which I have already failed in, thinking to myself this thing might "not be for me" or "I'm not good at this", or maybe looking down on myself with a "you're so stupid for trying" look. After the "self-pity" moments, I gain nothing but stress and in exchange, I lose hope.

     I was left with nothing, since I gave up on almost everything that I loved doing and it came to a point where I literally stopped doing those little by little and I got used to routines that went on for days, redundant useless unproductive routines. I missed everything. I missed myself. I was once an ignited candle that never melts that turned into a splatter of useless wax on the floor. Stuck. I had a hard time trying to sculpt myself up again.

     That is the thing with failing, we tend to label it with all sorts of negative thoughts when it fact these are all just misconceptions. Failing doesn't make you less of a person, it shouldn't discourage you or stop you from the things that you are passionate about, it shouldn't be the reason for your candle to remain unlit while ironically you're melting yourself with your own perspective.

     Same goes for trying. Let's say for instance, you tried cooking for the first time. You were so passionate about it and you felt like cooking really is your "cup of tea", but then when it was time for you to taste and evaluate your own dish, it turned out that it doesn't even taste good! You felt upset and disappointed because you were expecting so much from yourself. You stopped cooking, and you swore to yourself that you'd never cook again. A splatter of useless wax on the floor. On the other side, what could have happened when you took things constructively and when all this time you knew what failing really means? You wouldn't stop, you would actually try again until you've reached the standard you have set. Your dish would be your masterpiece, and you believe that there is more to your capability so you explore and you open yourself to changes.
    These failures should teach us something, and trying shouldn't be taken as a waste of time. Stop being too hard on yourself and be patient with yourself. You will bank on your progress and progress will only happen if you constantly try and practice on what you're good at. Likewise, choose the things that are worth spending time on, better ask the questions "what would I get from this?" and "is this what I really love doing?" first before anything else. Remind yourself that it's okay to fail and that you should allot sufficient time in doing what you love, keep that passion in you and everything would turn out great in the end. Nothing worth having comes easy :)

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